Posts Tagged ‘trust’

Over the last two days I have performed two readings that totally inspired me.

In the first one, right in the middle of the reading, my client made a decision that completely changed her future!

At the beginning of the reading, she was a few blocks away from the future she really wanted for herself.  The energy felt like a puddle slowly dripping down a sidewalk.

A new message came through for her, and she decided to listen to it, and the second she made the decision, before she told me, the energy suddenly transformed into a ray of light.  She leapt those few blocks in a single bound!  She’s now just a step away from realizing her dreams, and she’s already decided to take that step.  I was crying in Starbucks because I was so happy and excited for her!


I absolutely adore when a reading helps a client make a life-changing decision.  I love it so much, it’s inspired me to start Love-Your-Life Coaching!  I’m working on my website, and will definitely launch it in the next week, but y’all heard about it here first!

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Last night, I shared a meal with a Vietnam Vet who’s been homeless for 35 years, and I gave him a reading.

He wanted to know how he could settle down with his family, how he could overcome his fear of being rejected by his daughters and grandkids.

During the reading, he blossomed.  I watched him waver from excited about trying to fearful several times, but when he left he was determined to try the first step – to develop his faith.

He has to have faith in himself.

So simple, yet so difficult…but I know he can do it.

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What about you?  What inspires you?  What change would you like to make in your life?  Feel free to email me if you need some encouragement!

Love and Blessings,
Ashley Rae


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…and you can be compassionate even if you have a penis…

…just so you know.

(and you can be judgmental even if you have a vagina, to be fair.)

I just couldn’t resist the rhyme when it popped into my head. 😀

ANYHOO, my point is this:

Judgment means “an opinion.” We all form them.  Frequently.  And that’s okay…as long as it’s not getting in our way, interfering with our relationships, our work, our lives.

Compassion literally means “with love.”  It’s what happens when we try to see through the eyes of another being.  It is powerful, beautiful, and difficult to overuse.

Judgment labels, separates, assigns blame or responsibility.  Compassion accepts, embraces, and expands understanding.

What judgment hurts, compassion can heal.

I woke in a lovely mood today, and on my long commute I noticed a lot more traffic on the road than usual, and a lot more horns going off all around me.

It’s President’s Day, which some people celebrate by driving in a state of irritation and attemping to spread their mood with the use of obnoxious loud noises.

I chose to celebrate today by fantasizing about being interviewed on The Ellen Degeneres Show about my book after it comes out, and having her reveal to me that I’d reached number one on the New York Time’s Best Sellers list.

If I'm going to dream, I'm going to dream big!

Consequently, I felt happy and peaceful.  Every light was green, and every place I needed to turn left had a considerate driver holding space for me so I didn’t have to wait for the next red light.

When I dropped my three-year-old son off at his in-home daycare, the other half dozen toddlers shouted his name and ran up to him, each hugging and kissing him in turn, and he hugged and kissed each back before allowing one of his friends to lead him by the hand to the back yard, the other toddlers surrounding him like an escort.  I wish I’d had my camera for that moment!

Then, at Publix I got some watermelon and my favorite salsa and organic blue corn chips to snack on today, and I spotaneously decided to get treat myself with PureAlmond Dark Chocolate 8 oz beverages, which said buy 3 get 1 free.  When I got to the register, they didn’t ring up at the correct price, so the cashier gave me 2 for free!


Today, I was in Flow, a state of compassion, being filled with love…and love reflected all around me.

I’m still there.

I just wanted to share, so you can join me. ❤

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Welcome to 2012, a year I was so excited to embrace that I overwhelmed myself with goals and changes and here it is, 25 days in, and I realize I haven’t managed to post a blog in ANY of my public blogs (and only once in my private blogs,) and this is my official apology to myself and to all the wonderful blog readers out there who would have been inspired, educated, or at the very least entertained by my thoughts.

Today I want to talk to you about how to get the most out of psychic readings.

I have been a professional psychic for nearly a decade, and practiced divination for nearly two.  I have had dozens of readings and performed thousands.  And yet, I do not know everything there is to know about the world of psychics.

My aura pic from 2007 (I thought it'd make a cute psychic picture 🙂

For one thing, I have never come across the psychic con artist, who tries to convince you that you are cursed and for a few hundred dollars every week for the rest of your life they can remove the curse for you.  In fact, when I first heard about crap like that happening from friends who have dealt with these creeps, at first I was shocked.  Then, I was angry.  I consider what I do to be a sacred act, and the idea of someone abusing it infuriates me.

Psychic Con Artists may actually have psychic gifts, but who cares if they are trying to con you out of house and home?  So for the purposes of this post, we’ll consider them fake psychics.  Fake psychics also include those who ask leading questions, fishing for information that they then present to you as a psychic revelation.  A real psychic might ask questions for clarification; a fake psychic asks more questions than they answer.  Fake psychics may also say incredibly vague statements that could apply to anyone for the entire reading, whereas a real psychic may shock you with specifics.

Real psychics come in as many different flavors as any other profession.  It’s perhaps more productive to talk about psychics in terms of their readig style.  Here are the three main real psychic styles with which I am most familiar:


Me as a Fortuneteller for Halloween 2004

Fortune Tellers – psychics who specialize in predictive readings, who will tell you when you’ll meet your soulmate, whether you’ll have kids, how awesome your future career will be, etc.  Crystal ball readers, palm readers, and many card readers are often predictive psychics.  I consider fortunetelling to be a fun thing to play with, but not my primary gift.  Don’t ask me winning lotto numbers – I’ve always sucked at math. 😉


John Edward, Medium and really entertaining to watch 🙂

Mediums – psychics who specialize in connecting with departed loved ones.  They receive messages and pass them on to their living clients.  Sometimes they see the beings, sometimes they feel them, or hear them, or receive visual messages, or all of the above.    I am a medium, but it is a secondary gift, and usually not the focus of my readings except in special cases.  There are also such things as channelers – people who allow non-corporeal entities to inhabit their bodies and both speak and move.  That is something I do not do, and at this point, the very idea freaks me out. 🙂


Diviners – psychics who specialize in connecting with divine energy, such as deities, spirit guides, angels, totems, or the collective unconscious, to help their clients heal, grow, and solve problems.  I consider myself primarily a Diviner.  And we generally just call ourselves psychics, in case you were wondering why you’ve never heard of a Psychic Diviner.

I’ve shared all of this with you, because you may feel drawn more to one category than the other two.  For example, if you really want to talk to your departed grandma, you’d want to talk to a medium.  If you are just out for a good time, find a fortune teller.

If you’re new to all this and want to see what floats your boat, try one or two of each! (Except con artists, of course.)

And once you sit down with your psychic, either in person or on the phone, listen to your gut.  Do you feel comfortable with this person, or anxious?  If you feel anxious, walk away (or hang up.)

9 Swords from the Fey Tarot

When you are ready, and you meet the right psychic, you should feel comfortable with him or her, maybe excited or even a bit nervous.  What’s the difference between nervous and anxious?  Nervous is how you feel before a job interview; anxious is how you feel when you are swimming in deep water at the beach and  something underneath the water bumps into you and you have the Jaws theme playing in your head.

It is important to trust your psychic if you are getting a reading for anything more than entertainment.  Getting a reading is a very intimate act, even if it’s over the phone on a radio station.  I give mini readings on an internet radio station every week, and I can tell you that it does get very personal.  I joked with my friend, who runs the show, that we are like the Paranormal Delilahs.

The phrasing of your question affects the quality of your reading.  Some important points to remember are:

  • Avoid yes/no questions.  How/why/what questions are much more useful.  Instead of “is my marriage going to survive,” try “what can I do to help my marriage survive,” “why is my marriage on the rocks,” “what can I do to expedite my divorce,” or even, “would it be better to try to make my marriage work, or to file for divorce?”
  • If you want to hear about something specific, ask about it.  A lot of clients say they just want to hear whatever comes up.  That’s fine if it’s true, but if you find yourself asking about things your reading did not address, then you might consider thinking about  what you really want out of your reading for a few minutes before you sit down with your psychic.
  • Avoid “leading” questions.  You don’t need to lead your psychic towards the answer you want to hear.  It won’t work on an experienced reader, for one, and it might upset you if you don’t hear what you want to.

Even more important than phrasing your question is receiving your answer.  If you go to a psychic open to hearing the messages that are meant for you, you will get much more out of your reading than if you go with skepticism.

It’s okay to know what answer you expect as long as you are open to hearing a different answer.  A reading can give you a perspective that you never considered, or it can tell you exactly what you already know, but still help because hearing it from a stranger validates your decision and wisdom.

8 Pentacles from The Goddess Tarot

What tips do you want to add to help people get the most out of their psychic readings?  ❤

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Modern technology has made it possible to do the same work year round, and to do any activity any season.

However, our bodies and spirits are still operating on Earth’s time. Our bodies and spirits prepare for the changing seasons, even when our minds are otherwise occupied.

Now that we can do pretty much anything pretty much anytime we want, we never seem to get around to the things that matter most to us, and this throws us off balance.

When we’re off balance, any little thing can knock us down and set us back. So tonight, I’m going to show you a way to invite balance back into your body, heart, mind, and spirit.

For this healing rite, you need:

  • a bowl of water big enough to wash your hands in
  • about a teaspoon of sea salt (or plain salt)
  • a small glass of water (to drink)
  • a few minutes of uninterrupted time in a place where you feel safe and comfortable

Read over this whole rite before you get started so you know what you are doing.

Then, get comfortable.  Tell your brain firmly to stop chattering and let you heal.  Relax your body, and breathe deeply as long as you need to.

When you feel ready, pour the salt into your palm.  Cover the salt with your other hand.  Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and imagine all the stress, frustration, tension, worry, anger, fear, and pain in your heart, mind, and body flowing down your arms, through your palms, and into the salt.

The salt absorbs all the energy you put into it. It greedily sucks up the last bits of negative energy from your palms and holds it for you.

When you are ready, open your eyes, and wash the salt from your hands in the bowl of water, washing those ickies off of your hands and out of your life.

Now that you have removed that damaged energy from yourself, you have created a void that must be filled. Most people vent off their anger, pain, or fear…and then fill the void with the same pain, anger, or fear.  Counterproductive, much?

The only way to heal anger is to overwhelm it with love & forgiveness.
The only way to heal pain is to overwhelm it with joy & pleasure.
The only way to heal fear is to overwhelm it with peace & trust.

Now is the time to fill your own personal void with love, joy, and peace.

Hold your cup of water in both hands and close your eyes. Think in great detail about people, memories, and activities that make you feel confident, happy, safe, loved, special, and peaceful.  Let those fillings fill you up, and overflow from your heart, down your arms, through your palms and into the water.

When you feel ready, acknowledge that your water is blessed with love, peace, and joy, and that you accept this peace, love and joy as your own.  It helps to acknowledge this out loud…it makes it more real for you to hear your own voice saying it.   Then drink this blessed water, and visualize it filling your void, healing you, and making you whole and healthy.

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