Welcome to 2012, a year I was so excited to embrace that I overwhelmed myself with goals and changes and here it is, 25 days in, and I realize I haven’t managed to post a blog in ANY of my public blogs (and only once in my private blogs,) and this is my official apology to myself and to all the wonderful blog readers out there who would have been inspired, educated, or at the very least entertained by my thoughts.
Today I want to talk to you about how to get the most out of psychic readings.
I have been a professional psychic for nearly a decade, and practiced divination for nearly two. I have had dozens of readings and performed thousands. And yet, I do not know everything there is to know about the world of psychics.
My aura pic from 2007 (I thought it'd make a cute psychic picture 🙂
For one thing, I have never come across the psychic con artist, who tries to convince you that you are cursed and for a few hundred dollars every week for the rest of your life they can remove the curse for you. In fact, when I first heard about crap like that happening from friends who have dealt with these creeps, at first I was shocked. Then, I was angry. I consider what I do to be a sacred act, and the idea of someone abusing it infuriates me.
Psychic Con Artists may actually have psychic gifts, but who cares if they are trying to con you out of house and home? So for the purposes of this post, we’ll consider them fake psychics. Fake psychics also include those who ask leading questions, fishing for information that they then present to you as a psychic revelation. A real psychic might ask questions for clarification; a fake psychic asks more questions than they answer. Fake psychics may also say incredibly vague statements that could apply to anyone for the entire reading, whereas a real psychic may shock you with specifics.
Real psychics come in as many different flavors as any other profession. It’s perhaps more productive to talk about psychics in terms of their readig style. Here are the three main real psychic styles with which I am most familiar:
Me as a Fortuneteller for Halloween 2004
Fortune Tellers – psychics who specialize in predictive readings, who will tell you when you’ll meet your soulmate, whether you’ll have kids, how awesome your future career will be, etc. Crystal ball readers, palm readers, and many card readers are often predictive psychics. I consider fortunetelling to be a fun thing to play with, but not my primary gift. Don’t ask me winning lotto numbers – I’ve always sucked at math. 😉
John Edward, Medium and really entertaining to watch 🙂
Mediums – psychics who specialize in connecting with departed loved ones. They receive messages and pass them on to their living clients. Sometimes they see the beings, sometimes they feel them, or hear them, or receive visual messages, or all of the above. I am a medium, but it is a secondary gift, and usually not the focus of my readings except in special cases. There are also such things as channelers – people who allow non-corporeal entities to inhabit their bodies and both speak and move. That is something I do not do, and at this point, the very idea freaks me out. 🙂
Diviners – psychics who specialize in connecting with divine energy, such as deities, spirit guides, angels, totems, or the collective unconscious, to help their clients heal, grow, and solve problems. I consider myself primarily a Diviner. And we generally just call ourselves psychics, in case you were wondering why you’ve never heard of a Psychic Diviner.
I’ve shared all of this with you, because you may feel drawn more to one category than the other two. For example, if you really want to talk to your departed grandma, you’d want to talk to a medium. If you are just out for a good time, find a fortune teller.
If you’re new to all this and want to see what floats your boat, try one or two of each! (Except con artists, of course.)
And once you sit down with your psychic, either in person or on the phone, listen to your gut. Do you feel comfortable with this person, or anxious? If you feel anxious, walk away (or hang up.)
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When you are ready, and you meet the right psychic, you should feel comfortable with him or her, maybe excited or even a bit nervous. What’s the difference between nervous and anxious? Nervous is how you feel before a job interview; anxious is how you feel when you are swimming in deep water at the beach and something underneath the water bumps into you and you have the Jaws theme playing in your head.
It is important to trust your psychic if you are getting a reading for anything more than entertainment. Getting a reading is a very intimate act, even if it’s over the phone on a radio station. I give mini readings on an internet radio station every week, and I can tell you that it does get very personal. I joked with my friend, who runs the show, that we are like the Paranormal Delilahs.
The phrasing of your question affects the quality of your reading. Some important points to remember are:
- Avoid yes/no questions. How/why/what questions are much more useful. Instead of “is my marriage going to survive,” try “what can I do to help my marriage survive,” “why is my marriage on the rocks,” “what can I do to expedite my divorce,” or even, “would it be better to try to make my marriage work, or to file for divorce?”
- If you want to hear about something specific, ask about it. A lot of clients say they just want to hear whatever comes up. That’s fine if it’s true, but if you find yourself asking about things your reading did not address, then you might consider thinking about what you really want out of your reading for a few minutes before you sit down with your psychic.
- Avoid “leading” questions. You don’t need to lead your psychic towards the answer you want to hear. It won’t work on an experienced reader, for one, and it might upset you if you don’t hear what you want to.
Even more important than phrasing your question is receiving your answer. If you go to a psychic open to hearing the messages that are meant for you, you will get much more out of your reading than if you go with skepticism.
It’s okay to know what answer you expect as long as you are open to hearing a different answer. A reading can give you a perspective that you never considered, or it can tell you exactly what you already know, but still help because hearing it from a stranger validates your decision and wisdom.
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What tips do you want to add to help people get the most out of their psychic readings? ❤
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